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Nikah
&
Beyond
Contents
Page
Nikah – Introduction
Spiritual assistance to get married
How do we prepare for Nikah?
Spouse selection
The Engagement period
Mahr
Recitation before Nikah
Rukhsati
Khutba of Nikah
Conditions for the ‘aqd of Nikah
The ‘Aqd of Nikah
Dua after the ‘aqd of Nikah
When congratulating the bride & groom
Mustahabat for the wedding night
Janaba
What makes a marriage work?
Communication
Duas to maintain a relationship
Duas when seeking help
Duas for conception
Pregnancy
Month by month recommendations
Duas at the time of delivery
Upbringing of a child
Parenting in a home
Nurturing good behaviour
Ahadith about children
Duas for children
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NIKAH
According to Islamic law it is known as a bi-lateral
contract (aqd) proposed by the woman and
accepted by the man. However, we know that
without love there is no contract strong enough to
hold two people together.
In Suratur Rum, 30:21, Allah says:
"...And among His signs is that He creates for you
mates of your kind and causes love and tenderness
between you, so you find peace in each other,
Indeed in this is a message for people who
reflect..."
In essence therefore it is a tri-lateral contract
between a man and a woman inviting Allah as the
third entity.
Man and woman are drawn towards each other
because individually we are programmed to feel
incomplete. Prophet Adam (AS) when created was
the ‘richest’ man in all aspects yet sensed a feeling
of being incomplete which he could not resolve or
understand. It was only when Allah created
Sayyida Hawwa that he felt complete.
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Without the sanctity of Nikah however, man and
woman are like two fires which consume each
other. Two people may love and care for each
other but without inviting Allah into the
relationship what is there to bind temporal human
beings eternally? In essence we have two
strangers
with
different
personalities
and
backgrounds going through many different
transitions in their lives including the inherent
physiological,
psychological
and
emotional
differences between man and woman.
Nikah therefore is a commitment of man and
woman to the Creator and His timeless laws.
Basic objectives of nikah
•
To secure a content comfortable atmosphere
for the husband and wife.
•
Producing a new generation of healthy,
righteous children.
The Prophet (SAW) has said:
“No institution is liked by Allah more than the
institution of marriage.”
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SPIRITUAL ASSISTANCE TO GET MARRIED
1.
Suratu Taha – To be worn as tawidh. Recite on
water and drink
2.
Suratul Ahzab
3.
Suratul Mumtahana 5x every day.
4.
Aya 36 of Suratu Yasin 11x after Salatut
Tahajjud for 40 days
5.
Dua Al-Mashlool for 40 days
6.
Recite the following dua after giving sadaqa
َي
ِباَب ْسَ ْلاا َبِّبَسُم ا
ِبا َوْبَ ْلاا َحِّتَفُم اَي
َم ُثْي َح ْنَم اَي
َبا َجَا َيِعُد ا
O Causer of Causes; O He Who opens the doors of
(opportunities); O He Who answers to the call from
wherever (He is called).
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7.
Recite the following dua 100x for 40 days after
any wajib salaa.
ُزْي ِزَع اَي َكِلْضَفِب َلاْھَس
Make easy (my difficulty) by Your super-abundant
favours, O the Mighty.
8.
The father to recite 2 rakat salaa on Friday
after Salatul Jumua’ and after the salaam go
into Sajda and recite Suratul Muzzammil 21x.
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HOW SHOULD WE PREPARE FOR NIKAH?
A successful marriage, and thus a successful family
and subsequently a successful community begins
well before the selection of a spouse! It begins
with oneself first! Educating and preparing oneself
in the formative years before marriage!
Ask yourself:
Who am I?
The crucial answer to recognise first is that one is a
nafs (soul) within a body. One can only have a
successful union with another human being if
one’s nafs and body are first attuned to each
other.
In Suratul Baqara, 2:148 Allah says:
“..And everyone has a direction towards which
he/she turns – so turn towards the best...”
One must first find one’s direction – nafs and body.
The emphasis on finding a spouse can not only be
on superficial external elements because it will
conflict with the search which each nafs is
programmed
towards
to
find
a
deeper
compatibility. The marriage will not be successful if
the directions are totally incompatible.
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