The Future of Sex(uality) Cybersex or Pseudosex

The Future of Sex(uality)

• Cybersex or Pseudosex

• What help can we get?

• What helps to free the inner child?

Is sex, or the excuses we dream up to meet to get sex, what defines a culture?

• Internet made it easy to get the kicks, but has it really made it better?

• We lost the sense of wonder, the adventure of discovery, the rites of passage

• sex is a commodity, we made love an illusion,

First: technology

• Slow progress since Ted Nelson’s Dildonics (1974)

What (new) technologies are there to improve/help/boost sexual pleasure

• Chemicals like Viagra, testosterone, midodrine, viloxazine and moclobemide, XTC, 2CB and a score of old stimulants and aphrodisiacs

• Mechanical: lubricants, dildo’s, electric pads, inflatable puppets, sex-robots, tactile interaction devices, VR-sex, dildonics, cybersex

• Fantasy: nothing new, fetishes of all kinds, but now on DVD, internet, externalising our feelings

• Exercises like Kegel, contraction exercises, yoga, kundalini, tantra

• Psychotherapy in cases of rape, abuse and malfunctioning

• Surgery in case of esthetical needs, malfunctioning or trauma, in extreme to make borgs

Stimulants and magic potions

They work!!

• Different chemicals adress different systems, just pumping more blood (Viagra) is limited

• Tryptamines, Amphetamines, what chakra, what senses do they enhance?

• Hardly any study into multi-substance effects

• See www.net.info.nl/psimatrix.htm

Cybersex, a new fantasy genre or a new medium

• M. McLuhan: the medium is the massage/message

• Luc Sala: a bit is only information if it bytes

Cybersex-Cyberporn

• Addictive

• Anti-social

• Easily perverted

• Crossover to reality

• (molest, abuse, childporn)

• But

• Cheap

• Safe

• Big Business

• An alternative

Real-time, but not reality

• Look-alike, fantasy-alike and for some the great escape

Some progress, but no killer app yet

Together in cyberspace

• In 1990 we believed VR would change the world, it hasn’t!

It hasn’t happened, so what was missing?

Then: psychology

• Lots of studies, lots of theories, little progress

• Maybe the old sages knew more?

• Sex, Love and happiness, what the heck do we know?

Has psychology helped us in establishing what is good or bad, so-so sex or ectasy, moral or sin? Hardly, I think

• Since Freud and the behaviourists we are all aware of our complexes, trauma’s and sexual imprints and as we accept that we all have an outward Persona (Mask), and a wounded child inside or shadow (covering the deeper and pure inner child (higher self) then how do these two subpersonalities affect our sexual behaviour?

My work suggests:

• Wounded Child and Mask are two distinct modes (personalities) with their own:

• Intelligence

• Memory and trauma scars

• Sexual orientation

• Talents

• Medical profile

• Chi/energy profile

• Most people live 95% or more in their mask, the inner child comes out in stress, sex, mystic states, with some drugs and in dreams

It’s the wounded child that eventually kills you

• Experiences create the mask, but also scar the child inside

• Diseases are signals from the wounded child

• If you don’t listen they grow

• Accepting the shadow (and cleaning its wounds) is the only way to psychosomatic

• health

Some data

And now sex!

• Some people have sex in their mask mode ( about 12-15%)

• Of these 45% has different sex-orientation in child/mask

• Most people have sex in their (wounded) child mode

• This is where SM/exhibitionism, fetishes, abuse, etc. abound

More Data of a rather private kind

• details

A sex matrix: what does it tell?

• Sex in the mask (P1) is less satisfactory

• 45% of the people under 30 are stuck in their sex-chakra

• 40% of the people over 30 are stuck in their sex chakra

• Most people don’t reach their sex potential ever, making it to 50% is an exceptional experience for them

• Real sex is better than masturbation, but not always

• We are all “abnormal”, against what the Church, Balkenende or Bush consider acceptable

And Cybersex?

• Great if you like sex in your mask

• Maybe we can learn to cope with a limited sensory arsenal

• Sex-therapy via the internet or VR is an option

• For now, cybersex will yield some 40% of real sex in terms of satisfaction at the physical and emotional level, and far less at the spiritual.

Back to the future

• Will we find ways to help people enjoy sex in their “child” mode

• I believe a combination of psychotherapeutic methods, old wisdom like tantra practice and yoga, prudent use of substances and awareness of how our mask/child system works, can help.

And how about science?

• Once we learn to accept intuition and combine it with scientific analysis we might find ways to understand ourselves better.

• Sex is an information process, mostly happening between the ears, so why don’t we start studying what information really is.

• I personally believe that information, consciousness and love are pointing at the same ground of being.

So:

• A bit is only information if it bytes

• maybe sex is only love if it changes you

Luc Sala

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