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going to drink at all, there is nothing peculiar in his sneaking drinks in

an environment which is naturally hostile. It shows rather more of a social

consciousness than if he did blatantly what he knows is the part of folly.

But on the other hand, where there seems to be no reason why a person should

not drink in company and where he has plenty of opportunity to do so, then a

preference to drink in solitude would probably indicate an abnormal

personality.

6. SELF-PERSUASION

A man must make up his mind to do everything in his power to cooperate in

such work as there is to be done. Halfway measures are of no avail. Even if

a patient is interviewed every day, it is obvious that one hour of

instruction, analysis, and persuasion could not be effective should a man

have an adverse or indifferent state of mind during the other twenty-three.

He may listen dutifully while he is in the office and agree with what is

being said to him, but if the subject leaves his mind until the next

appointment, or if it is counterbalanced by destructive ideas which he could

control, then his visits are doing him little good. An alcoholic should

always realize that he himself does the actual work which produces the cure,

though he may well need to be shown how to do it, and often be encouraged to

carry it on. There is no wand to wave over his head wafting away by magic

his undesirable habits. Two eminent Frenchmen, Dr. Dejerine and Dr. Gaukler,

write thus of their patients: "We give them the desire to be cured, but it

is they themselves who work the cure. This is the very thing which

constitutes, we think, the great superiority of psychotherapeutic methods by

persuasion. They develop in people the feeling of personality and

responsibility, they increase their intellectual control, they accustom them

to plan their lives and direct their energies by themselves."

The patient should view the process as he would a course, say, in medicine

or technology. He knows perfectly well if he worked hard the first month or

two at a medical school or engineering institute and loafed the rest of the

time, or if he worked three days a week and knocked off for the other four,

he would be neither a doctor nor an engineer. just because there are no

lectures where attendance is taken, no laboratories where specimens can be

looked at under a microscope, and no written examinations to be passed, the

man who is going through a process of reeducation cannot afford to take his

work lightly or informally. In reality he is undertaking the most important

problem with which he has ever been faced, and unless it is solved in a

satisfactory manner his life will be a total failure.

A man must be impressed with the fact that he is undergoing treatment for

his own personal good and because he believes it to be the expedient thing

to do. In other words, he is doing it selfishly as far as the guiding motive

goes, though the results, if he is successful, will of course be anything

but selfish. Others cannot help but profit by his change of conduct, and if

that is the case, so much the better. But the minute a man seeks to reform

for somebody else, no matter how deeply he may care for the other person, he

is headed for failure in the long run. The old habits are for a long time

trying hard to assert themselves, and as the work proceeds their attacks

become more and more subtle. If he can lay the blame for failure at someone

else's door, he will surely find a means of doing it.

Consider the case of a man who tried to give up drinking for the sake of a

wife to whom he was most devoted. Drunk or sober, he was a very peaceable

individual, but under special conditions these characteristics did not

prevent him from picking an acrimonious argument with his wife one evening.

When she quite naturally retaliated, he said, "All right! I've given up

drinking for you and it 's a damned hard thing to do, and now see how you

treat me! I'll show you that I 'm not going to stand for that sort of

thing." He soon showed her by going out and getting drunk. As he had his

pockets picked of two hundred dollars which he could ill afford to lose, he

incidentally showed himself something, too. The motivating forces behind

this performance were entirely unconscious, but when brought to his

attention were readily admitted. He simply wanted to get drunk, but, as the

old excuses about being cold and tired no longer held good, his unconscious

invented what he thought at the time was a " real good reason.''

The problem of drinking for the alcoholic is so important that it cannot

afford to be contingent upon other people. If a man must avenge himself for

real or imaginary wrongs, then there are plenty of ways for him to do so and

still remain in a reasonably integrated state of mind. If, however, he takes

a drink, he must realize that he is doing it solely because he wants to

drink and not as a response to an external stimulation, whatever form this

stimulation may take. The weather, physical fatigue, football games, New

Year's Eve, and slumps in the market are typical "good" excuses. But, as I

have said, the results of drinking are so disastrous for a chronic alcoholic

that there can be no such thing as a good or bad excuse for drinking at all.

This, of course, means that an attitude of forethought must be maintained.

Should the idea that the problem is after all not a vital one take root in

the mind, the work might just as well be given up. The conviction of its

supreme importance is an absolute necessity. The frequent inability to give

up minor habits by those who have conquered alcohol is an excellent

illustration of this point. By contrast the temptation is insignificant, but

because these minor habits are very properly held to be relatively

unimportant, no genuine sustained effort is put forth to suppress them.

Certain moments may be "seductive" if they are allowed to be, but the

"'seduction" can be frustrated nine times out of ten by an advance mental

preparation, and on the tenth (the unforseen) occasion forceful common sense

can be hastily summoned to a mind that has had methodical training in

visualizing the problem in its true light. Because surroundings are highly

respectable and the cocktail is very mild, the idea that "it won't do any

harm to take it just this once," must not be allowed to take root in the

mind for an instant. If this dangerous thought so much as shows itself, it

must be swamped under an avalanche of positive suggestion.

The intellectual idea of abstinence is not of itself adequate to carry on

the cure conscientiously over a sufficient period of time. It takes

sustained effort to unite the intellectual concept which led the alcoholic

to seek help with that consistent form of action which is an expression of

an automatic attitude rather than a monument to will power.

Sound theory is an absolutely essential point of departure, but the

statement that hell is paved with good intentions was never better applied

than to the alcoholic who, almost more than anyone else, has become a

specialist in avoiding life. Whatever may be the theoretical desire and

intention, the old habits do not die as quickly or as easily as one could

wish, nor are they dead and buried as soon as the patient considers them to

be. In periods of emotional stimulation, whether pleasant or unpleasant,

they may suddenly appear to the bewilderment of the person who had supposed

himself to be cured "in record time." The habits of five, ten, and perhaps

twenty years' standing are not going to pass out of the picture in as many

days or even weeks, no matter how intelligent or conscientious a man may be

in his application to the work. He has got to keep on directing his mental

processes in a formal and definite manner for at least a year after his last

debauch. The second year should be regarded as postgraduate work, during

which the subject requires a modicum of attention. After that his new habits

of thinking - that is, a genuine and automatic desire for abstinence -

should have become permanent. But for the rest of his life he must allow

himself just one thought in connection with drinking - under no

circumstances can he ever drink anything intoxicating again. And "anything"

most certainly must include light wine and beer, however harmless one may

consider them to be.

A man will usually act according to his desires if it is possible for him to

do so. Therefore my work is based on the idea that if a permanent cure for

alcoholism is to be accomplished the mind must be trained so that in the

course of time it ceases to want to drink. This for the drunkard, who has

proved by his conduct that drinking is disastrous, is a normal goal which

does not require any exotic ratiocination or mental gymnastics to be brought

into harmony with logic. When it has been attained, he is no longer in a

state of conflict, and his energies become released for other worth-while

interests and activities. This I think constitutes the all important

difference between going on the wagon, even for long periods, and

permanently effacing the mental attitude behind the habit.

A man who is on the wagon may be sober physically, but mentally he may be

almost as alcohol-minded as if he were drunk. He is sorry for himself (a

disastrous state of mind for anybody to be in) and he is envious of his

drinking friends. He is constantly wondering if he cannot find an excuse for

"falling off," and he is daydreaming of how happy and lucky he will be when

the days of abstinence are finished. If he is not actually on the wagon, but

is trying to curtail his drinking, he wastes his time attempting to devise

various impossible schemes for making his drinking successful. Furthermore,

he is doubtless depressed because of some fiasco that he has made of a

recent party, he wonders why he did it, and whether he will do it again.

He dreads what people are saying about him, and he knows in his heart,

however much he may try to whoop up his courage by rationalization, that

things are going from bad to worse. Nevertheless, life without liquor seems

hopelessly stupid.

Looked at with a sense of relativity, to say nothing of a sense of humor,

this is sorry stuff to obsess the mind of a supposedly mature man with

normal obligations and responsibilities. Yet "obsession" is no exaggerated

term to apply to the mental state of the individual who is trying to

temporize with alcohol once he has exhibited a pathological reaction to it.

Obsessions are arrived at generally after a long and intense application of

erroneous thinking, and therefore it is no exaggeration to say that thoughts

are most decidedly potent influences in determining people's lives.

Constructive thinking must be stimulated in order that values be properly

determined and desirable action set in motion. Therefore to prevent a

continuous conflict, to prevent denial being a matter of will power, though

power should be brought into play whenever logic will permit it.

Says Dr. Myerson, "Thought is powerful, words are powerful, if combined with

appropriate action, and in their indirect effects. All our triumphs are

thought and word products; so, too, are all our defeats."

Let the alcoholic, then, become accustomed to talking to himself in some

such manner as this: "The most sensible part of me, the part that I consider

my best self and should like therefore to think of as my directing force,

does not want to drink any more because much experimentation has proved it

to be a most unsatisfactory way of living.

Furthermore, it is my belief from what I know of the history of other

alcoholics (whom I have no particular reason to believe differ materially

from myself) that after a course of treatment, from which I learn in a

scientific manner how to rid myself of the habit, I shall be very much

happier than I can possibly be as long as I persist in trying to beat what

has already beaten me soundly. Moreover, this satisfaction will be true from

a purely selfish point of view, regardless of the happiness it may or may

not bring into the lives of others. Of course I realize that there is a part

of me, perhaps a large part in the beginning, that wants to drink. If this

were not true it would be unnecessary for me to take formal action about it.

But there is no use lying to myself any more or trying further to suppress

my unfortunate desires in other words, pretending that this temptation does

not exist. However, it does seem logical and reasonable to me that, if I

really try consistently, I can reorient my opinion on the subject, which

after all has been emotional, so that it coincides with my intelligence.

This I have already admitted is the best part of me - the part which

certainly should be in control of my destiny, and the part which secretly

agrees with the world in thinking that I cannot and should not go on

drinking."

This is the most important element in the work - the control and direction

of the thoughts toward the ultimate logical goal. It is for this reason more

than any other that treatment even with those whose theoretical desires

(regardless of their conduct in the beginning) are sound must be patiently

carried on over a long period of time -long, that is, by comparison with the

time required for an intellectual understanding of the treatment. It does

little good for a man to endeavor to eliminate his habit until he considers

it a sound, sensible, and desirable thing to do; something he would like to

accomplish for his own sake, however difficult it may seem. Incidentally,

for a man who is willing to buckle down to work the "difficulty" is always

exaggerated in the beginning, as successful patients, without exception,

have testified at the conclusion of the treatment.

On the positive side, then, the patient must keep before him the idea that

his most mature intelligent self wants to stop drinking, and whenever he

thinks of the subject he must drive this point home with as many masons as

he can muster from his experience to support it. On the negative side, all

destructive daydreaming about the enjoyment of bygone parties as well as

imaginary ones in the future must be checked as near its inception as

possible. That these undesirable thoughts will appear, particularly in the

beginning of the treatment, goes without saying, but if their presence

prevented eventual cure nobody would ever get well. The all-important point

is how they are to be treated when they do come to the mind.

The negative thoughts must be stopped, but the subject must not be repressed

or even dropped from consciousness until it has been pursued to its logical

conclusion with as many positive thoughts as possible. When at length the

mind is diverted, the unconscious, which is supposed to retain all memories,

must be left with a true picture of the whole situation and the individual's

intellectual attitude toward it, so that it holds as a conclusion the idea

that, whatever may have been done in the past, total abstinence is the only

possible and hence desirable solution of the future.

The following example will clarify any doubt as to what is meant by the

control and correction of stupid and dangerous reflections and imaginings.

A man who had successfully rid himself of alcoholism, and who had learned

thoroughly how to guide his mind so as to maintain willingly his new

attitude toward life, was walking along the street one spring evening. He

heard a radio playing an old song which through association carried him back

to his drinking days - in fact, to one particularly "glorious party." Before

he realized what he was doing he had mentally relived the entire scene. But,

even though cured, it would have been a mistake for him to leave his mind in

this condition. Being aware of the danger of negative suggestion, he

reviewed briefly his alcoholic history: all the trouble of which this party,

among many others, had been the forerunner, and the recent debauches, with

their painful recoveries - in other words, what a mess he had made of his

life because of alcohol. Then he recounted how he had pulled himself

together, just about in time, and how entirely different his life had become

since he had given up drinking. By this procedure he overcame any tendency

to action that might in the long run have resulted from his preliminary

pleasant recollections. He had suppressed nothing, nor had he in any way

lied to himself, but the final vivid impression left on his mind was that

drink was something that he very definitely did not want to bother with

again.

For emphasis I repeat; It is of supreme importance that positive thinking be

employed whenever the subject comes up until the cure is complete, and that

negative thinking be restricted to that small amount which automatically

occupies the mind before the attention is aroused to combat it.

Negative thoughts, given the chance, arise all too swiftly. As the

individual's adult life has been built around alcohol, it has naturally

become an accompaniment to many of his instinctive urges - particularly his

ego or willto-power urge, as has already been pointed out. It is his refuge

in trouble and boredom as well as an apparent necessity at times of

pleasurable excitement, because for the inebriate there is in reality little

or no enjoyment without it. As soon as his intellectual control is shaken at

all, and it takes very little to shake it, his emotions immediately take

charge, which is almost the same as saying that alcohol takes charge, if

there is any available. While in this condition he wants happiness and

relaxation (of which I shall come to speak) and he wants them as soon as he

can get them.

When treatment is under way, the patient is less liable to give in to these

emotional states, as he has been forewarned of their probable appearance and

has received instructions in handling them. Furthermore, he has taken a

definite mental and a more matured emotional attitude toward them. This does

not prevent, however, what are called conditioned reflexes - or, better,

conditioned responses - from causing a certain amount of peculiar reactions

until the mental processes are proof against them. Sometimes these stimuli

are perfectly obvious, as would be the case when an alcoholic attends a

wedding or dance or any other occasion where formerly he was accustomed to

drink. But there are other unperceived stimulations which are connected in

his mind with alcohol. When these are received by his senses, they may set

in motion his former processes of thinking. Under this head might come

certain faces, places, or sounds which are not consciously associated with

dissipation although the relationship could be established if enough

analytical association were employed.

The purpose of mentioning these conditioned responses is, first, to show why

it is that a person who is trying his hardest to forget the subject of

alcohol may so frequently think about it at unusual times; and, secondly, to

explain certain annoying character traits which may crop out for apparently

no reason, and which the patient in his bewilderment may at times think are

almost as bad as the habit itself if they are to become permanent. These

traits are moodiness, depression, and sometimes anger, which apparently are

without reasonable provocation. The inebriate misses his accustomed refuge,

and furthermore he does not like to surrender to the fact that he must forgo

what his friends apparently can indulge in. Moreover, he has in sobriety a

surplus energy which he has been in the habit of deadening rather than

utilizing. As nothing of a worth-while nature is at hand to which he can

devote his attention the minute he sobers, up, the same discontent that he

felt between parties is carried over into sobriety, but because he is no

longer drugging himself he is more conscious of it. There is a feeling of

emptiness and lack of accomplishment even though he may be rather proud of

his ability to resist his temptation.

Also, he is beginning to realize that this change might have been

accomplished sooner, and that on the whole he has been stupid to insist on

prolonging his excessive drinking until the last possible moment. Now these

phenomena are sometimes entirely unconscious, and are activated to symbolic

expression by seemingly irrelevant or insignificant events. That does not

prevent them, however, from being a motivating force in the destruction of

mental peace and emotional equability. The alcoholic must understand that

the initial period of treatment is a transitory state, but that when his

creative instinct is satisfied and he has had time to form new associations

of ideas his negative moods will pass.

Parenthetically I should like to add that, if the patient has a tendency to

be disagreeable while drinking, this will be intensified should he suffer a

relapse. He will be conscious that he is doing something that he has taken

very definite measures against, and that these measures were taken because

his intellectual self had come to a realization that drinking for him was

the height of inexpediency. This being the case, the alcoholic hates himself

for his stupidity in a manner that he never did before he declared himself

formally against the habit, and so in drunkenness this self-hatred is almost

sure to be projected on to others.

One alcoholic found himself unreasonably disagreeable on returning from

football games which he attended sober. It was the first autumn in many

years that he had gone without liquor, and football had formerly furnished a

particularly suitable excuse for intoxication. Apparently he thought little

about his problem either during or after the games; in fact, he claimed to

have enjoyed them almost as much as ever., and he could think of no reason

to account for his ill nature. Then he was shown that, inasmuch as he only

began treatment in the middle of September, his old habit system, which he

had not had time to eliminate, was still seeking its accustomed manner of

expression. He was repressing this desire into the unconscious, and it was

vicariously seeking satisfaction in the form of a temper outburst when he

returned to his home. When this displacement of affect was analyzed, the