focusing tool, not a storage place. You can think about only two or three things
at once. But the incomplete items are still being stored in the short-term-memory
space. And as with RAM, there’s limited capacity; there’s only so much “stuff”
you can store in there and still have that part of your
brain function at a high
level. Most people walk around with their RAM bursting at the seams. They’re
constantly distracted, their focus disturbed by their own internal mental
overload.
For example, in the last few minutes, has your mind wandered off into some
area that doesn’t have anything to do with what you’re reading here? Probably.
And most likely where your mind went was to some open loop, some incomplete
situation that you have some investment in. All that situation did was rear up out
of the RAM part of your brain and yell at you, internally. And what did you do
about it? Unless you wrote it down and put it in a trusted “bucket” that you know
you’ll review appropriately sometime soon, more than likely you
worried
about
it. Not the most effective behavior:
no progress was made, and tension was
increased.
The big problem is that your mind keeps reminding you of things when you
can’t
do
anything about them. It has no sense of past or future. That means that
as soon as you tell yourself that you need to do something, and store it in your
RAM, there’s a part of you that thinks you should be doing that something
all
the time
. Everything you’ve told yourself you ought to do, it thinks you should
be doing
right now
. Frankly, as soon as you have two things to do stored in your
RAM, you’ve generated personal failure, because you can’t do them both at the
same time. This produces an all-pervasive stress factor whose source can’t be
pin-pointed.
It is hard to fight an enemy who has outposts in
your head.
—Sally Kempton
Most people have been in some version of
this mental stress state so
consistently, for so long, that they don’t even know they’re
in
it. Like gravity,
it’s ever-present—so much so that those who experience it usually aren’t even
aware of the pressure. The only time most of them will realize how much tension
they’ve been under is when they get rid of it and notice how different they feel.
Can you get rid of that kind of stress? You bet.
The rest of this book will