although the amount of time can vary, we feel as if this new part of our identity has always been a part
of who we are. It then becomes difficult to believe that we were ever the way we were before we had
the experience. In short, you may already have some awareness of much of what you need to know to
be a consistently successful trader. But being aware of something doesn't automatically make it a
functional part of who you are. Awareness is not necessarily a belief. You can't assume that learning
about something new and agreeing with it is the same as believing it at a level where you can act on it.
Take the example of my client who is afraid of snakes. He is certainly aware
that not all snakes are
dangerous, and that learning how to make a distinction between the ones that are dangerous and the
ones that aren't would not be difficult.
Will learning how to make these distinctions suddenly cause him not to be afraid of "non-dangerous
snakes"? Can we assume that his awareness will drop down to a level in his mental environment where
he can now interact with snakes without fear or immobility? No, we cannot make this assumption. His
awareness that some snakes aren't dangerous and his fear of snakes can exist side by side in his mental
environment, as a contradiction to each other. You could confront him with a snake and he might
readily acknowledge that he knows the snake is not dangerous and wouldn't hurt him; but, at the same
time, he would still find it extremely difficult to touch the snake, even if he wanted to. Does this mean
that he is doomed to be afraid of snakes for the rest of his life? Only if he wants to be. It's really a
matter of willingness.
It's certainly possible to neutralize his fear, but he will have to work at it, and
working at anything
requires sufficient motivation. Many of us have what we know to be irrational fears and simply choose
to live with the contradiction because we don't want to go through the emotional work that is necessary
to overcome the fear. In this example, the contradiction is obvious. However, in my many years of
working with traders, I have uncovered several typical contradictions and conflicts surrounding the
issues of risk and responsibility, where holding two or more conflicting beliefs can easily cancel out
your positive intentions, no matter how motivated you are to be successful.
The problem is that none of these contradictions are really obvious, at least not at first glance.
Contradictory beliefs, however, aren't the only problems. What about assertions like "I'm a risk taker,"
that traders typically assume have dropped down to the functional level of
a belief when, in fact, the
underlying dynamics of the way they perceive the market indicates they are doing everything possible
to avoid risk. Contradictory beliefs and nonfunctional awareness represent flawed mental software
code; code that destroys your ability to stay focused and accomplish your goals; code that makes it
seem as if you simultaneously have one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake; code that
gives learning how to trade a mysterious quality that will be challenging in a fun way at first, but
usually turns into pure, unadulterated exasperation. When I was in college in the late 1960s, one of my
favorite movies was
Cool Hand Luke,
starring Paul Newman. It was a
very popular movie back then, so
I'm sure some of you have seen it on late-night TV.
Luke was in a Georgia chain gang. After he escaped and was caught for the second time, the warden
and guards were determined not to let Luke make fools of them a third time. So while forcing him to do
an inordinate amount of work with no rest and giving him intermittent beatings, they kept asking,
"Have you got your mind right yet, Luke?" Eventually, after considerable suffering, Luke finally told
the prison bosses that he had his mind right. They said that if he didn't, and tried to escape again, they'd
kill him for sure. Of course, Luke attempted
another escape, and true to their word, the guards killed
him. Like Luke, many traders, whether they realize it or not, are trying to have it their way by beating
the market; as a result, they get financially and emotionally killed. There are easier, infinitely more
satisfying ways of getting
what you want from the market, but first you have to be willing to "get your
mind right."
CHAPTER 5
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