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from Stray Birds, CCXIX
Society's Contributions to Defensiveness
Until now we have looked at the individual human reaction to death and dying. If we now take a
look at our society, we may want to ask ourselves what happens to man in a society bent on
ignoring or avoiding death. What factors, if any, contribute to an increasing anxiety in relation to
death? What happens in a changing field of medicine, where we have to ask ourselves whether
medicine is to remain a humanitarian and respected profession or a new but depersonalized science
in the service of prolonging life rather than diminishing human suffering? Where the medical
students have a choice of dozens of lectures on RNA and DNA but less
experience in the simple
doctor-patient relationship that used to be the alphabet for every successful family physician? What
happens in a society that puts more emphasis on IQ and class-standing than on simple matters of
tact, sensitivity, perceptiveness, and good taste in the management of the suffering? In a
professional society where the young medical student is admired for his research and laboratory
work during the first years of medical school while he is at a loss for words when a patient asks him
a simple question? If we could combine the teaching of the new scientific and technical
achievements with equal emphasis on interpersonal human relationships
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we would indeed make progress, but not if the new knowledge is conveyed to the student at the
price of less and less interpersonal contact. What is going to become of a society which puts the
emphasis
on numbers and masses, rather than on the individual-where medical schools hope to
enlarge their classes, where the trend is away from the teacher-student contact, which is replaced by
closed-circuit television teaching, recordings, and movies, all of which can teach a greater number
of students in a snore depersonalized manner?
This change of focus from the individual to the masses has been more dramatic in other areas of
human interaction. If we take a look at the changes that have taken place in the last decades, we can
notice it everywhere. In the old days a man was able to face his enemy eye to eye.
He had a fair
chance in a personal encounter with a visible enemy. Now the soldier as well as the civilian has to
anticipate weapons of mass destruction which offer no one a reasonable chance, often not even an
awareness of their approach. Destruction can strike out of the blue skies and destroy thousands like
the bomb at Hiroshima; it may come in the form of gases or other means of chemical warfare-
invisible crippling, killing. It is no longer the man who fights for his rights, his convictions, or the
safety
or honor of his family, it is the nation including its women and children who are in the war
affected directly or indirectly without a chance of survival. This is how science and technology
have contributed to an ever increasing fear of destruction and therefore fear of death.
Is it surprising, then, that man has to defend himself more? If his ability to defend himself
physically is getting smaller and smaller, his psychological defenses have to increase manifoldly.
He cannot maintain denial forever. He cannot continuously and successfully pretend that he is safe.
If we cannot deny death we may attempt to master it. We may join the race on the highways, we
may read the death toll over national holidays and shudder, but also rejoice - "It was the other guy,
not me, I made it."
Groups of people, from street gangs to nations, may use their group identity
to express their fear of
being destroyed by attacking and destroying others. Is war perhaps nothing else but a need to face
death, to conquer and master it, to come out of it alive; a peculiar form of denial of our own
mortality? One of our patients dying of leukaemia said in utter disbelief: "It is impossible for me to
die now. It cannot be God's will, since he let me survive when I was hit by bullets just a few feet
away during World War II."
Another woman expressed her shock and sense of incredulity when she described the "unfair death"
of a young man who was on leave from Vietnam and met his death in a car accident, as if his
survival on the battlefield was supposed to have guaranteed immunity from death back home.
A chance for peace may thus be found in studying the attitudes toward death in the leaders of the
nations, in those who make the final decisions of war and peace between nations. If all of us would
make an all-out effort
to contemplate our own death, to deal with our anxieties surrounding the
concept of our death, and to help others familiarize themselves with these thoughts, perhaps there
could be less destructiveness around us.
News agencies may be able to contribute their share in helping people face the reality of death by
avoiding such depersonalized terms as the "solution of the Jewish question" to tell of the murder of
millions of men, women, and children; or to use a more recent issue, the recovery of a hill in
Vietnam through elimination of a machine gun nest and heavy loss of VC could be described in
terms of human tragedies and loss of human beings on both sides. There are so many examples in
all newspapers and other news media that it is unnecessary to add more here.
In summary, then, I think that with rapid technical advancement and
new scientific achievements
men have been able to develop not only new skills but also new weapons of mass destruction which
increase the fear of a violent, catastrophic death. Man has to defend himself psychologically in
many ways against this increased fear of death and increased inability to foresee and protect
himself against it. Psychologically he can deny the reality of his own death for a while. Since in our
unconscious we cannot perceive our own death and do believe in our own immortality, but can
conceive our neighbor's death, news of numbers of people killed in battle, in wars, on the highways
only support our unconscious belief in our own immortality and allow us-in the privacy and secrecy
of our unconscious mind-to rejoice that it is "the next guy, not me."
If
denial is no longer possible, we can attempt to master death by challenging it. If we can drive the
highways at rapid speed, if we can come back home from Vietnam, we must indeed feel immune to
death. We have killed ten times the number of enemies compared to our own losses-we hear on the
news almost daily. Is this our wishful thinking, our projection of our infantile wish for omnipotence
and immortality? If a whole nation, a whole society suffers from such a fear and denial of death, it
has to use defenses which can only be destructive. Wars, riots, and increasing numbers of murders
and other crimes may be indicators of our decreasing ability to face
death with acceptance and
dignity. Perhaps we have to come back to the individual human being and start from scratch, to
attempt to conceive our own death and learn to face this tragic but inevitable happening with less
irrationality and fear.
What role has religion played in these changing times? In the old days more people seemed to
believe in God unquestionably; they believed in a hereafter, which was to relieve people of their