“Ur outfit is ugly…Just kiddin”-The Bully, the Bullied & the Bystander The Ethical Responsibilities of the School Counselor

“Ur outfit is ugly…Just kiddin”-The Bully, the Bullied & the Bystander

• The Ethical Responsibilities of the School Counselor

• Donna Clark Love

• Bullying Prevention Trainer

THE WORD “BULLY”

“BULLYING” defined:

• A student is being bullied or victimized when he

• or she is being exposed,

• repeatedly, and over time,

• to negative actions on the

• part of one or more

• students.

Bullying is an Imbalance of Power

• Bullying requires an imbalance of

• power between perpetrator and

• victim which may be

• manifested through

• physical might,

• intelligence, verbal,

• or social skills.

New Bullying Law definition now includes following components

• Expression through electronic means;

• Exploits an imbalance of power;

• Interferes with a student's education or substantially disrupts the operation of a school;

• Is sufficiently severe, persistent, AND pervasive enough…

Texas Bully Law House Bill 1942 – By law, we must have…

• An established procedure for reporting & investigating a bullying incident & determining whether the incident occurred

• Available counseling options for victim, witness and student

• A procedure for providing notice of an incident to a parent of both the victim and bully

Texas Bully Law House Bill 1942 – By law, we must have…

• Curriculum that addresses awareness, prevention, & intervention of bullying

• Policy which prohibits disciplinary measures for victims who use reasonable self-defense

• Reporting procedures must be posted on the district’s Internet website

The Legal Standard of Liability

• Schools can be charged with

• “deliberate indifference” in

• cases. The school is held

• responsible for “knowing" or

• “should have known” of the

• bullying conduct/incidents and

• was deliberately indifferent to the pattern of conduct.

Effective BP Frameworks have these (5) characteristics in common:

• Whole …

• Permission to …

• Consistent & Enforced Consequences…

• Support Activities/Interventions for …

• Bullying Prevention seen not as…

ASCA Ethical Standards for School Counselors

• A.1.- Is responsible for…

• A.3.- Works jointly with the counselee…

• A.6.- Screens prospective group members…

• C.1.- Treats colleagues with…

Counseling Options for Students who Bully

• Teach Difference between Aggression & Assertion

• Warn & Check- Classroom Interventions

• Create Opportunities for Positive power

Counseling Options for Students who are Victimized

• Challenge Normative Behaviors

• Encourage Involvement in Non-Competitive Recreation

• Small Friendship Groups on Specific Social Skills

Rituals of Respect

• Rituals of Respect

• Create Pledges/Championing a Cause

• Teach Group Peer Interventions

• Reward Outstanding Bystander Interventions or RAK

• Read BP Books that promote standing up for others

Stop the Bullying : On-The-Spot

• Immediately…

• Stand between ...

• Escort...

• Do not ask ...

• Find out details ...

• Support ...

What is Cyber Bullying?

• Cyber Bullying involves the use of information and communication technologies to deliberately harm or injure an individual or group.

Top (4) Cyber Bullying Infractions

• Using images…

• Stealing…

• Sending…

• Creating….

Cyber-Community Lingo

• Chat room

• Bulletin boards

• Flame

• Cyber-citizen

• Cyber- space

Leet ( Leetspeak)

• A……4 /-1

• B……8 13

• C……( [

• D….. I) [)

• E……3

• F……I=

Cyber Pals

• Jasmine ( 5th grader) and Nicole- Child Diabetes

• Darrell ( 3rd grader) and ?- Comic Book

• Collector

Bullying Prevention Pledge

Top Ten Efforts To Prevent Bullying School Wide

• 4. Assess your school’s needs and goals.

• 5. Develop an anti-bullying policy that includes digital bullying guidelines & consequences.

• 6. Implement uniform classroom rules to

• prevent bullying with consistent consequences.

• 7. Identify resources for bullies, victims, and families.

Top Ten Efforts To Prevent Bullying School Wide

• 8. Provide increased supervising in areas where bullying tends to occur.

• 9. Integrate anti-bullying themes and activities into curriculum; make it part of the culture.

• 10. Involve parents and community.

Contact Information

• Donna Clark Love

• [e-mail]

• www.schoolbullyingexpert.com

• 281-467-4861