DOCTOR: And you can't generalize. No, we agree that we can't. do that. That's what we are trying
to do here, to look at each individual and try to learn how we can help this type of individual. And I
think you are the kind of fighter who would do as much as you can possibly do till the last day.
PATIENT: I'm gonna do it.
DOCTOR: And then when you have to face it, you'll face it. Your faith has contributed a lot to your
being able to smile through this.
PATIENT: I hope so.
DOCTOR: What faith do you belong to?
PATIENT: Well, Lutheran.
DOCTOR: What in your faith helps you most?
PATIENT: I don't know. I can't pin point it. I've found a lot of comfort in talking to the chaplain.
And I've even called him on the phone to talk to him.
DOCTOR: When you are really having the blues and feeling lonely and nobody around, what kind
of things do you do?
PATIENT: Well, I don't know. Anything that comes to my mind, I guess, that has to be done.
DOCTOR: For example?
PATIENT: Well, I've turned on a panel show the last few months on TV and gotten my mind off of
myself. That's the only thing. Look at something else or call my daughter-in-law to talk to her and
the youngsters.
(P216)
DOCTOR: On the phone?
PATIENT: On me phone and keeping busy.
DOCTOR: Doing things?
PATIENT: just to do something to get my mind off myself. And I call the chaplain just for a little
moral support once in a while. I don't really talk about my condition to nobody. My daughter in-law
usually gets an idea of when I call that I might be blue or down in the dumps. She'll put one of the
youngsters on or she'll tell me something that they did and it's over with by that time.
DOCTOR: I admire your courage for coming in here for this interview. You know why?
PATIENT: No.
DOCTOR: We have a patient every week, and we do this every week, but you are somebody who,
I'm finding out now, doesn't really want to talk about it, and you knew that we were going to talk
about it. And yet you were willing enough to come.
PATIENT: Well, if I can help somebody else in some way I'm willing to do it. Like I say, as far as
my physical condition or health, why, I feel just as healthy as you and the chaplain here. And I'm
not sick.
DOCTOR: I just think it is remarkable that Mrs. L. volunteered to come here. You mean to be of
some service in a way, or to help us.
PATIENT: I hope so. If I can help somebody else, I'm glad to do it, even though I'm not able to get
out and do something. Well -I'm going to be around for a long time. Maybe I'll have a few more
interviews. (Laughter)
Mrs. L. accepted our invitation to share some of her concerns but showed a peculiar discrepancy
between facing her illness and denying it. It was only after this interview that we were able to
understand some of this dichotomy. She offered to come to the seminar not because she wanted to
talk about illness or dying but to be of some service while restricted and unable to function outside
of her bed. "As long as I function I live," she said at one point. She consoles other patients but is
really quite resentful that she cannot lean on somebody's shoulders. She calls the chaplain for a
confidential private confession, almost in secret, but admits only briefly during the interview some
feelings of occasional depression and need for conversation. She terminates the interview by saying,
"I am as well and healthy as you and the chaplain," which means: "I have lifted the veil, now I will
cover my face again."
It became evident in this interview that complaining was equated with dying. Both her parents
never complained and only admitted to being sick prior to their death. Mrs. L. has to function and
keep busy if she wants to live. She has to be the eyes of her visually handicapped husband and
helps him deny the gradual loss of his vision. When he has an accident because of his poor vision,
she imitates a similar accident to emphasize that this is not related to his illness. When she is
depressed she has to talk to someone but should not complain: "People who complain are in a
wheelchair for seventeen years!"
It is understandable that progressive illness with all its implications is very difficult to tolerate for a
patient who feels so strongly that complaining is necessarily followed by being permanently
crippled or dead.
This patient was helped by relatives who allowed her to call up and talk about "other things," by
having a television in her room to distract her, later on by little arts and crafts which she was able to
do in order to give her a feeling of "still functioning." When the teaching aspects of such interviews
are stressed, a patient like Mrs. L. can share a lot of grievances without feeling that she will be
labeled a complainer.
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XI - Reactions to the Seminar on Death and Dying
The storm of the last night has crowned this morning with golden peace.
Tagore, from Stray Birds, CCXCIII
Staff Reactions
As described earlier, the hospital staff reacted with great resistance, at times overt hostility, to our
seminar. At the beginning, it was almost impossible to get permission from the attending staff to
interview one of their patients. Residents were more difficult to approach than interns, the latter
more resistant than externs or medical students. It appeared that the more training a physician had,
the less he was ready to become involved in this type of work. Other authors have studied the
physician's attitude toward death and the dying patient. We have not studied the individual reasons
for this resistance but have observed it many times.
We have also noticed the change in attitude once the seminar was established and the attending
physician had the opinion of either his colleagues or some of the patients who came to the class.
Students and hospital chaplains equally contributed to the staff's increased familiarity with our
work, and the nurses have perhaps been the most helpful assistants.
It may not be a coincidence that one of the doctors best known for the total care of the dying patient,
Cicely Saunders, started her work as a nurse and is now physician attending the terminally ill in a
hospital set-up especially designed for their care. She has
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confirmed that the majority of patients know of their impending death whether they have been told
or not. She feels quite comfortable discussing this matter with them, and since she does not need
denial she is unlikely to meet much denial in her patients. If they do not wish to talk about it, she
certainly respects their reticence. She emphasizes the importance of the doctor who can sit and
listen. She confirms that most of her patients then take the opportunity to tell her (more often than
the other way around) that they knew what was happening, resentment and fear being almost
nonexistent at the end. "More important still," she says, "the staff who has chosen to do such work
should have had the opportunity to think deeply about it and to find their satisfaction in a different
sphere from the usual aims and activities of hospitals. If they themselves believe in and really enjoy
such work, they will help the patient more by their attitude than by any words."
Hinton was equally impressed by the insight and awareness the terminally ill patients demonstrated
and the courage they showed in facing their death, which almost always came quietly. I give these
two examples because I think they reflect as much about these authors' attitudes as they say about
the reactions of their patients.
Among our staff we have found two subgroups of physicians who were able to listen and talk
calmly about cancer, impending death, or the diagnosis of a usually fatal illness. They were the
very young in the medical profession who either had experienced the death of a person close to
them and worked through this loss or who had attended the seminar over a period of several months;
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