Nikah Introduction Spiritual assistance to get married
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that one has the integrity to act properly even when no one but Allah is watching – in other words one has taqwa. There are no magic formulae to handle problems within a marriage. There is a need to understand that both husband and wife carry equal responsibility to preserve the marriage and that no relationship can be successful if it is built on one person’s terms as so often happens in our society. Individuality is enhanced in a successful marriage not obliterated. It is tempting to have things one’s way, but there is a major difference between selfish love and selfless love. Both are diametrically opposed. Selfish love is conditional love – Selfless love is where we rise above our own needs.
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COMMUNICATION Think of these three statements: 1.
Telling exactly how you feel
2. Listening to what the others say (Listening is different from hearing) A good listener is one who lets another person talk and does not interrupt with opinions and criticism. He/she also makes you feel as if what you have to say is worth listening to – that you are respected, accepted and interesting,
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Accepting his/her opinions and feelings even when they are different from yours. Ponder over why you think these points make for good communication. Remember many communication problems result from habits which we may not even be aware of like: a)
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Making something else the issue c)
Not talking and sulking d)
Nagging e)
Changing the subject f)
Being a know all g)
Disguised criticism h)
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DUAS TO MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP
Recite Suratu Yasin 7 times and blow on 7 almonds separately and give to spouse for eating.
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Recite: ِمْيِحﱠرلا ِنَمْحﱠرلا ِﷲ ِمْسِب 786 times on water and give it to spouse for drinking.
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Recite Suratu Quraysh (106) on roses and both of them should smell them.
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Recite Ya Wadudu 1000 times on some sweet eatables and both should eat it.
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Recite verse 31 of Suratu ‘Aal Imran 3 times on water and give it to the spouse to drink. www.qfatima.com Page 44
DUAS WHEN SEEKING HELP •
invoke the Almighty Allah to fulfill your desire.
• Recite AL MAANI-U (The Preventer) as many times as possible.
• Recite the following portion of verse 54 of Suratul Ma’ida on something sweet for the couple to eat. ٍةﱠزِعَا َنْيِنِم ْؤُمْلا ىَلِع ٍةﱠلِذَا ُهَنْوﱡبِحَي َو َنْيِرِفاَكْلا ىَلَع ْمُھﱡبِحُي He loves them and who love Him, humble towards the believers, mighty against the infidels.
• Recite verses 29 and 30 of Suratu Yusuf on something sweet for the husband and wife to eat.
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Recite a 2 rakaat salaa after Eisha on a Monday. In each rakat, after the recitation of Suratul Fatiha, recite Suratudh Dhuha (93) 10x
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and after the salaam recite the following dua 25 times.
ِبْلَق ىَلِا ْىِنﱠبَحَا ﱠمُھَللَا •
Recite verse 96 of Suratu Maryam (19) on some sweet eatables for the couple to eat.
• Write verses 1 and 2 of Suratud Dahr (76) with saffron and wash it with rose water which the couple should drink it. www.qfatima.com Page 46
DUAS FOR CONCEPTION
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Salawat 14x, or 70x or 100x Istighfar – 70x after morning prayers, 77x after Asr prayers and 100x after Isha prayers. Recite salawat before and after each dua, as your duas are granted more quickly.
• Recite Suratul Fajr (89) 3x daily
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Fast and break fast with milk on which Suratu Muzzammil has been recited 77x
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After all wajib salaa recite the following dua 3x:
ُرْيَخ َتْنَا ﱠو اًد ْرَف ْىِن ْرَذَت َلا ﱢبَر َنْيِثِراَوْلا My Lord! Leave me not childless and thou art the best of inheritors. Suratul Ambiya 21:89
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