Nikah Introduction Spiritual assistance to get married
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Month 9
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Suratul Hajj on Thurs night Suratul Fatir on Friday •
In Zhuhr & Asr Salaa recite Suratul ‘Asr & Suratuzh Zhariyat •
Recite Suratul Qadr all the time •
Eat dates and meat in moderation. Avoid spices. •
Avoid looking at pictures and in the mirror. Banish bad thoughts.
*After Suratul Hamd **25:74
َةﱠرَق اَنِتاﱠيﱢرُذ َو اَنِجاَوْزَا ْنِم اَنَل ْبَھ اَنﱠبَر اًماَمِا َنْيِقﱠتُمْلَعْجا َو ٍنُيْعَا www.qfatima.com Page 54
DUAS AT THE TIME OF DELIVERY
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Recite Suratul Inshiqaq (84) 7x 2.
Recite Suratul Inshirah (94) 3.
Recite Suratul Qadr as much as possible 4.
Write 46:35 and 3:35 on paper, wrap it in a cloth and tie it around mum’s right leg during labour 5.
Recite Suratu Maryam. 6.
Pray for everyone, as prayers during delivery are heard very fast.
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UPBRINGING OF A CHILD
“Let your child play upto 7 years, and keep him/her with you (for study etc..) for another 7 years; then if he/she succeeds (all is well); otherwise there is no good in him/her.” Imam Ja’fer As-Sadiq (AS)
“The child is a master for 7 years, and a slave for 7 years and an ambassador for 7 years; so if he/she builds a good character within 21 years all is well; otherwise leave him/her alone because you have discharged your responsibility before Allah.” The first stage is a care free period, it has been called mastership; the second stage means taking orders from teachers and parents, therefore it has been called slavery; in the third stage the child is what he has been brought up to be and therefore is called an ambassador.
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0-7 years “When a child arrives in the world, recite Adhan in his/her right ear and Iqama in his/her left ear.” Prophet Muhammad (SAW)
It aims at the declaration of the oneness of Allah, the invitation of Islam, and the advice of performing good deeds to be recited in the child’s ear.” It re-inforces the purpose of existence: “Say: “Indeed my salaa, my sacrifice, my life and my death are all for Allah, the Lord of the worlds.” (Qur’an - Suratul An’aam - 6:163)
Breast feeding “The best milk for a child is the milk from it’s own mother.” Imam Ali (AS) A number of Ulema consider it obligatory for a mother to nurse her child from her own breast immediately after the birth of a child. The first 3 days are very important for the proper functioning of the baby’s digestive system. It is highly recommended to do wudhoo before feeding a child, and to have good thoughts. As in www.qfatima.com Page 57
pregnancy, the mother’s diet and thought’s have a significant effect on the child. Thus the hadith from Imam Ali (AS): “Allow only a woman whose outward and inward manners are proper to nurse your child, because the child will take on those qualities from her.”
Increasing breast milk 1.
Write ayaat 8 & 9 of Suratur Ra’ad and wear as ta’widh on right arm. Alternatively write with saffron on a china plate, and drink the water. 2.
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Write Suratu Yaasin with saffron, wash and drink. 4.
Write aya 21 of Suratul Mu’minun with saffron, wash and drink.
To wean a child from breastfeeding, write aya 14 of Suratu Luqman and make the child wear it as a tawidh.
Aqiqã It is recommended that the baby's head be shaved when he/she is seven days old. Traditionally the shaved hair is weighed and the equivalent weight in gold or silver is given to the poor and needy. This
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is to thank God for the gift of a new life. Today, a donation is given in lieu. A sacrifice of a sheep or a goat is done and distributed between the midwife, the poor and family and friends. This ceremony is known as aqeeqa. Imam Ja’fer As-Sadiq (AS) has said: “Every child that is born is under the pledge in respect of his aqeeqa.” It is reported that a man came to Imam Ja’fer As- Sadiq (AS) saying that he was not sure whether his father had performed his aqeeqa. Imam asked him to perform his own aqeeqa, which the man did in his old age.
CIRCUMCISION It is highly recommended that a male child be circumcised soon after birth. The Prophet (SAW) has said: “Circumcise your sons on the seventh day (after birth) because the tissues build up quickly and the wound heals easily.” One of the pre requisite conditions of tawaf of the Ka’ba for a man is that he must be circumcised. Tawaf by an uncircumcised man is batil. As per Ihtiyat Wajib, tawaf by children who have not been circumcised is batil too.
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Imam Ali (AS) has said that if a man is a Muslim he should be circumcised even if he has reached old age.
The New Encyclopaedia Britannica states (Vol. 3 pg.328)
Studies have indicated that uncircumcised men have a higher incidence of AIDS, syphilis and other sexually transmitted diseases than circumcised men..... Love your child Prophet Musa (AS) once asked: “O Lord! Which deed is best in your eyes?” Allah replied: “Love of children, for I have created them with the natural belief in My unity and if I grant them death, I will put them mercifully in heaven.” Imam Ja’fer As-Sadiq (AS) said: “Allah may have mercy on a person simply because the person loves his/her child very much.”
Equal Treatment Nu’man bin Bashar reports that his father once gave him a gift. His mother insisted that the Prophet (SAW) witness the gift. When Nu’man’s father went to the Prophet (SAW) with the request www.qfatima.com Page 60
to witness that which he was going to gift to his son, the Prophet (SAW) asked him: “And have you bought the same gift for all your other children?” Nu’man’s father replied in the negative and the Prophet (SAW) said: Fear Allah and treat all your children equally. I do not wish to witness something that is not right.” www.qfatima.com Page 61
PARENTING IN A HOME DAWN D – Discipline •
Discipline is to teach a child to be responsible for his actions whilst punishment is to control a child.
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Discipline by example. •
The ‘Iron Rod’ method leads to rebelliousness. A – Acceptance •
what they do. The only door they can knock at is
yours.....Disapproval need
not mean
rejection.
W – Wanted •
Show physical affection. N – Needed •
house, to help with chores, make decisions etc •
Start slowly with little things and then build up responsibility •
outcome.
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QFATIMA TIPS
times have changed and you have to move with them and adapt
Father time and mother time needed separately as well as together
Never contradict your partner in front of the child
If you promise a reward or punishment, go through with it.
Allah has entrusted you with a child, therefore you must be special to be given the responsibility. He asks two things of you:
Nurture the child and Protect (from a fire whose fuel is humans and stones) the child.
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NURTURING GOOD BEHAVIOUR
The Prophet (SAW) has said: “Respect your children and teach them good behaviour, Allah will forgive you.” Imam Ja’fer As-Sadiq (AS) has said: “Take the initiative to talk to your young ones before they are overcome by their instincts.” The Prophet (SAW) was once sitting with his companions when he said: “May Allah save the children of later times from the improper conduct of their fathers.” The companions asked who these fathers were and what wrong they would do. The Prophet (SAW) replied: “From the conduct of the Muslim fathers who do not teach their children religious duties and if the children resort to religious matters they forbid them from doing so, and are contented with regard to their children with insignificant material things. I am disgusted with them....”
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AHADITH ABOUT CHILDREN
Imam Sadiq (as) said:" The prophet (SAW) once in the dhuhr (noon) prayer shortened the last two rakat. When the people enquired about the reason, he replied: “Didn't you hear the child crying?"
The prophet (SAW) said:" One who has a child should act like the child." Imam Sadiq (AS) said:" Let your child play for seven years."
Every time the Prophet (SAW) returned from a trip, children would be waiting for him and he would hold some of them and ask his companions to hold others. When the Prophet (SAW) leaves, the children would be talking about how he held one to his chest and another to his back, and how he asked others to hold the rest....
The Prophet (SAW) says: “The parents are responsible with regard to their children in the same manner in which the children are responsible with regard to their parents”. (Furu’ul Kafi, vol.II, p.94) www.qfatima.com Page 65
“Allah blesses those who assist their children in doing good things which they do themselves”. (Furu’ul Kafi, vol.II, p.94)
Imam Ali, (AS), says: “The child has a right on his father and the father too has a right on his child”. (Nahjul Balaghah, p.1264)
which accepts every seed that is sown on it”. (Nahjul Balaghah, p.903)
“When you name a child ‘Muhammad’ give him due respect, make room for him in the assemblies…”. (Wasa’ilush Shi’ah, vol.III, p.123)
Imam Ali, (AS), says: “One of the rights of a child is that his father should teach him the Holy Qur’an”. (Nahjul Balaghah, p.1264)
Imam Ja’far Sadiq, (AS), says: “Up to seven years of age, a child should play, for another seven years he should be taught how to read and write and for still another seven years he should learn about lawful and unlawful things”. (Furu’ul Kafi, vol.II, p.94) www.qfatima.com Page 66
“A child is a master for seven years, a slave for another seven years and a minister for another seven years”. (Makarimul Akhlaq, p.255)
“A good act is written in the record of virtuous deeds for one who gives a kiss to his child”. (Furu’ul Kafi, vol.II, p.95)
“Purify (circumcise) your sons on the seventh day because the tissues then build-up quickly and the wound heals up easily”. (Wasa’ilush Shi’ah, vol.III, p.130)
“When a child arrives in the world, recite Adhan in it’s right ear and Iqama in it’s left ear”. (Makarimul Akhlaq, p.261)
“Aqiqa is necessary for a well-to-do man. As regards a poor person he should also do it when his circumstances permit. And in case it is not possible for him to give it, he is under no obligation in this behalf. Every child that is born is under pledge in respect of his Aqiqa. (Makarimul Akhlaq, p.260)
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“Observe justice in dealing with your children in the same manner in which you expect them to observe justice in being kind and good to you”. (Makarimul Akhlaq, p.252)
“Whoever goes to the bazaar and purchases a present for the members of his family and brings it to them is like one who spends on the needy. However he should prefer daughters to sons because whoever pleases his daughter is like one who frees a slave from among the descendants of Prophet Isma’il”. (Makarimul Akhlaq, p.254)
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DUAS FOR CHILDREN Crying child Write ayat 108 to 112 of Suratut Taha and make the child wear as tawidh. Recite Suratul Ghashiya (88) Teething problems Write Suratul Qaf (50) with saffron, wash and apply sparingly to child’s gums. Disobedience 1.
once and blow on child. 2.
After every wajib salaa recite Aya 15 of Suratul Ahqaf 7x thinking of the child in question.
To keep away effects of ‘evil eye’ 1.
Recite 7:54-56 2.
28:35 7x after salatul tahajjud 3.
Ayatul Kareema (21:89) 121x after Fajr salaa for 40 days 4.
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