30 days: Change your habits, Change your life

Try it and see for yourself
if it adds to your life or not.

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50
Speak less, Listen more
When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.
—ERNEST HEMINGWAY
One of the most important tools of a coach and also one of the most
important lessons from my coaching training is the ability and skill of
“active listening” or listening profoundly.
Listening profoundly means to listen to the person in front of you
while giving your full attention. It means to quiet down the little voice
in your head that comes up with advice and a solution 30 seconds
after the person starts speaking. 
Many people are not listening to
understand, but to answer.
They are just waiting for their
counterpart to pause so that they can begin to speak. 
If you are
rehearsing what you are going to say next, you are not
listening.
Don’t interrupt. Listen until the person is finished. If you
want to give advice, ask for permission. Most of the time, the person
who is speaking will come up with the solution—if you let her or him
finish. Try it! You might take your conversations and relationships to
a completely new level when, people feel that they are listened to by
you. Be a good listener!

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51
Be the change you want
to see in the world
Be the change you want to see in the world.
—MAHATMA GANDHI
Are you trying to change other people?
I’ve got news for you: You
can stop right NOW. 
It’s impossible!
You can’t help people who
don’t want to get help and you just can’t change other people. So
stop wasting your precious energy and start concentrating on what
you can do. And that is being an example