30 days: Change your habits, Change your life

! Be the change you want
to see in the world!
Have you heard about the idea that other people are like mirrors of
us? That means that things we don’t like about them, are often
things we have to work on ourselves and/or balance them out. When
I was “stuck”, I always got mad at the lack of manners in young
people who didn’t offer their seats to elderly people on the train.
Whenever I observed this, I used to start a negative inner dialogue
about “where the world is going, this can’t be, young people have no
manners, why should I get up, I’m 40 years old, blah blah”. Until one
day I stopped complaining about the young people and offered my
seat. Man, that felt good
! I’m not responsible for other people’s
behavior. I’m only responsible for my own behavior.
So by being
an example, I win twice: Once by not having this inner nagging
dialogue and secondly, because I feel like I did something right and
that feels so good. And maybe I even served as an example to
somebody else to offer his or her seat the next time. One of the
greatest insights that my clients have is when they shift from 
“others

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have to change”
to 
“what if I change, maybe then the other also
changes”.
You can literally see the light bulb go on over their heads.
You cannot change others. The only thing you can to do is accept
them as they are and be the best example and person that you can
be. Are you complaining about your partner, colleagues or spouse?
Be the best colleague or spouse possible! Are you complaining
about your employees? Be the best boss possible! Do you want
to be loved just as you are? Start with loving other people just
the way they are.
Questions:
What do you want to change?
Why not start with yourself?
What will you do differently?

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52
Stop trying and start doing
Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.
—MASTER YODA, “STAR WARS”
You can do yourself a huge favor if you stop using the word “try”.
Throw it out of your vocabulary!