times.
Bob who, together, sponsored Bill D., etc.
off the streets and decided to join AA. Instead they were sponsored into the
through Dr. Bob's Upper Room treatment where they "made a surrender," often
key element missing from modern AA.
BOOK. When the bus arrived and a man, matching his description, didn't get
the bus, the group asked the bus driver. They were told of a guy under the
drunk on his but. The group of sober drunks, of course, helped the drunk off
began to sponsor him.
wrote:
>
>   I have been revisiting the "Little Red Book," a title discussed
here at
times, and was struck by the way it recommends doing one's 5th Step with a
non-AA, e.g. a clergyman, doctor... In discussing the 8th Step, it mentions
that
one may want to refer to "older members" when unsure of how to proceed with
amends. In neither place is a sponsor mentioned.
> Â
> Â Â My understanding is that the Little Red Book represents AA practice
of
the 1940s, in particular that developed by Dr. Bob. Is this correct?
> Â
> Â Â Most of all though, I am curious: when did sponsorship as we know it
today become the norm? When did the tradition, suggested in the Big Book, of
discussing one's 5th Step with an outsider become the exception, and using
one's
sponsor the rule? Are there any interviews with old timers or other records
documenting this shift? Thanks, I learn so much from this group!
>
> Charlie C.
> IM = route20guy
>
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++++Message 5816. . . . . . . . . . . . Re: Re: History of sponsorship
From: Jon Markle . . . . . . . . . . . . 6/23/2009 1:59:00 PM
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Although the word "sponsor" or "sponsorship" does not appear in the
first 164 pages of the Big Book, the whole chapter on "Working with
others" certainly very well defines it. Perhaps the only reason the
word was not used is that the membership at the time simply did not
use that word/label as something associated with AA. "Sponsor" had a
completely different meaning back then. And it would have been
foreign, even conflicting, with the basic concept of our program at
the time. Today, we know it differently. And it fits the description
found in the Big Book, "Working with Others".
However, not long after the Big Book was published, another text was
written, which DOES use the word and clearly by then, it was in common
use and application.
It is a part of the AA program that is not only "suggested" but
essentially, a "must" if we want the full benefits of real recovery.
Only those who are isolationists think otherwise. IMO.
Hugs for the trudge.
Jon (Raleigh)
9/9/82
"The violets in the mountains have broken the rocks." (Tennessee
Williams)
"Hope is the feeling we have that the feeling we have is not
permanent." (M.McLaughlin)
"You know, I occasionally watch those preachers on the Christian TV
stations. I always think to myself: How can I believe your theology
when I can't believe your hair?" (Patricia Clarkson)
On Jun 23, 2009, at 3:17 AM, John R Reid wrote:
> Please refer to 100
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: allan_gengler
> To: AAHistoryLovers@yahoogroups.com
> Sent: Tuesday, June 23, 2009 5:45 AM
> Subject: [AAHistoryLovers] Re: History of sponsorship
>
>
>
>
>
> Even though SPONSORSHIP is not mentioned in the book Alcoholics
> Anonymous (The Big Book) I would suggest that sponsorship was the
> rule, from the beginning, and not something added later.
>
> Bill called Ebby his sponsor until death, even though Ebby slipped
> a few times. But the chain of sponsorship starts with Rowland
> Hazard, who sponsored Shep Cornell and Cebra Graves, who sponsored
> Ebby, who sponsored Bill, who sponsored Bob who, together, sponsored
> Bill D., etc.
>
> In "Dr. Bob and the Good Old Timers," it's clear that NO ONE just
> sauntered in off the streets and decided to join AA. Instead they
> were sponsored into the group FROM a hospital and wouldn't even
> attend a meeting unless they went through Dr. Bob's Upper Room
> treatment where they "made a surrender," often a key element missing
> from modern AA.
>
> Also in that book it's described how the group got together and
> pooled their money to bus a guy in who "supposedly" was the first to
> get sober on JUST THE BOOK. When the bus arrived and a man, matching
> his description, didn't get off the bus, the group asked the bus
> driver. They were told of a guy under the seat drunk on his but. The
> group of sober drunks, of course, helped the drunk off and began to
> sponsor him.
>
> I always thought that was interesting and have often wondered if it
> was truly possible to get sober ON THE BOOK ALONE. Even if you did,
> you would need to take the advice in A Vision For You and seek out
> drunks to form a fellowship, thus becoming a sponsor.
>
> I think the real question is when did sponsorship become optional
> and how sober drunks stopped seeking to sponsor and waited for
> someone to ask them. Or even the notion of being told "you must get
> a sponsor," when did that start. Luckily and man decided to be my
> sponsor so I never got to make that misguided decision in the
> beginning.
>
> --Al
>
> --- In AAHistoryLovers@yahoogroups.com, Charlie C
> wrote:
>>
>> I have been revisiting the "Little Red Book," a title discussed
>> here at times, and was struck by the way it recommends doing one's
>> 5th Step with a non-AA, e.g. a clergyman, doctor... In discussing
>> the 8th Step, it mentions that one may want to refer to "older
>> members" when unsure of how to proceed with amends. In neither
>> place is a sponsor mentioned.
>>
>> My understanding is that the Little Red Book represents AA
>> practice of the 1940s, in particular that developed by Dr. Bob. Is
>> this correct?
>>
>> Most of all though, I am curious: when did sponsorship as we know
>> it today become the norm? When did the tradition, suggested in the
>> Big Book, of discussing one's 5th Step with an outsider become the
>> exception, and using one's sponsor the rule? Are there any
>> interviews with old timers or other records documenting this shift?
>> Thanks, I learn so much from this group!
>>
>> Charlie C.
>> IM = route20guy
>>
>
>
>
>
>
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>
>
>
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>
> Yahoo! Groups Links
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++++Message 5817. . . . . . . . . . . . Re: Mayflower Hotel to Sieberling
Gatehouse.....transportation?
From: barefootbill@optonline.net . . . . . . . . . . . . 6/23/2009 3:57:00
PM
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I had asked the same question to Ray G., archivist at Dr. Bob's House & Ray
said
that Bill probably walked to Henrietta's (about three & a half miles). After
talking to Dr. Bob, Bill was offered a ride back to the Mayflower but said
he
would rather walk.
Just Love,
Barefoot Bill
----- Original Message -----
From: Gregory Harris
Date: Tuesday, June 23, 2009 1:14 pm
Subject: [AAHistoryLovers] Mayflower Hotel to Sieberling
Gatehouse.....transportation?
To: aahistorylovers@yahoogroups.com
> Hello all
> There is some discussion in our local group...this is along the
> lines of trivia but some of us are curious....does anyone know
> HOW Bill got from the hotel to the Gatehouse (i.e. bus..cab..or
> what?) Thanks
> Greg H. in Illinois
>
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++++Message 5818. . . . . . . . . . . . Re: Wino Joe?
From: Wesley Brauer . . . . . . . . . . . . 6/23/2009 6:16:00 PM
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Dear Dave,
I first heard " Wino Joe's " recording at a meeting in Tullahoma Tenn. I
remember laughing at that list but for the life of me I cannot recall it
.Itr
was a great lead !
Wes
________________________________
From: doci333
To: AAHistoryLovers@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Monday, June 22, 2009 4:21:37 PM
Subject: [AAHistoryLovers] Wino Joe?
Hi All,
I heard from the Joe and Charlie Tapes, mention "Wino Joe's" list of being
an
alcoholic. Joe mentioned only 2 or three from this humorous list.
Anyone have the list.
AA Love and Hugs,
Dave G.
Illinois
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++++Message 5819. . . . . . . . . . . . Re: "People places things"
From: t . . . . . . . . . . . . 6/24/2009 12:57:00 AM
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here are a few examples of this phrase that I have run across. All but
the first are from the AA Grapevine
I'll paste the whole paragraph [not whole article though] so the phrase
can be seen in the context it was used.
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from "As Bill Sees It" [page/reading 251]
"Are you really placing recovery first, or are you making it contingent
upon other people, places, or circumstances? You may find it ever so
much better to face the music right where you are now, and, with the
help of the A.A. program, win through. Before you make a decision, weigh
it in these terms."
LETTER, 1949
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AA Grapevine, August 1971
from article titled "Now I Want Myself" by F.H., Chicago, Ill.
AA has given me keen insight into my limitations, and it enables me each
day to remove myself from people, places, and things that tend to
threaten my sobriety. Since being in AA, I have gained more friends than
I could ever have imagined, friends who sincerely care about me and my
welfare. I have one friend in particular, whom I call my guardian angel.
Recently, I was in an automobile accident that almost cost me the use of
my writing hand, and she encouraged me to write.
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AA Grapevine, June 1978
from a letter by D. H. from San Francisco, Calif.:
When are we going to learn to be responsible for our own feelings? Let's
grow up and stop blaming "people, places, and things" for our feelings.
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AA Grapevine, July 1981
from an article titled "Steps to Awareness" by T.J., Houston, Tex.
The First Step gave me my first step in identity. I had always looked
outside myself — for my name, for the answer to all my needs. I looked
to people, places, and things and, of course, to booze. Ironically, the
alcohol I used to find answers gave me the first step in identity — I am
an alcoholic.
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AA Grapevine, September 1981
from an article titled "Action Begins at Home" by C.A., Houston, Tex.
The thought of spending hours and hours with me, just me, threw me into
a terrifying, gut-wrenching panic. Alone within my four walls, I finally
had to face the fact that in all those months of staying busy, I had
taken no real action at all. I had completed tasks, even AA tasks like a
Fourth and Fifth Step and a daily Tenth Step, but I had done them as a
child does homework to avoid getting in trouble with his teacher at
school. I finally realized that I had used constant activity, the
distraction of people, places, and things, to avoid bumping into myself.
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Grapevine, February 1983
from an article titled "Acceptance" by E.B., Dover, Del.
intro states:
She finally stopped blaming people, places, and things for her drinking
and in the article:
Only this time, I realized I was drinking because I wanted to and not
because of any other people, places, or things. I could finally see the
truth of what I had been told so many times: We get drunk because we
take that first drink, not for any other reason. My emotions finally
caught up with my intellect, and the two merged for a short time.
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Grapevine, July 1984
from an article titled "Sobriety Is an Inside Job" by L.P., Huntsville, Tex.
After several months in prison, my attitude toward people, places,
things, and ideas was still very poor a lot of times. I hid this as best
I could. The AA program was getting into a lot of areas of my life —
what a revelation! Now another action step was required, because I had
become more conscious of yet another character defect after these few
months of youthful sobriety.
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Grapevine, March 1988
from a letter by E. B. of Wentzville, Mo.:
As I read the November issue on sponsorship, I felt the usual reactions
which I feel when I read the Grapevine: I agree with this person, this
person is way off base, but I guess it works for them, etc. However, my
overall feeling was one of indifference. I didn't have a lot of interest
in an issue on sponsorship because there was no direct connection to my
program. After all, I had gone by the book. Shortly after treatment I
got a sponsor who helped me through the Steps and helped me keep in
balance when people, places, and things started to become my higher
power. I always appreciated him very much and didn't take him for
granted. We saw each other once a week and I called him once a week. On
the other side of the coin my few attempts at sponsorship were
disappointing. As you can see, the issue didn't apply to me since my
little world was all neat and tidy. Then I got a phone call from a
friend in the Fellowship last Saturday. My sponsor had died suddenly of
a heart attack. I had never in my life had to deal with such a loss. The
immediate feeling of aloneness was hard to bear.
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AA Grapevine, May 1989
from an article titled "Bingo Card of Life" by Joseph O., Meade, Md.
I was close to being chaptered out of the Army with a bad conduct
discharge. I had two article fifteens, one court-martial, seventeen days
AWOL, thirty days' stockade time, and barely six months in the Army.
Never mind the countless jobs I'd lost on the outside and my two
alcohol-related civilian convictions. Drinking wasn't my problem; it was
people, places and things. I wasn't sick — everyone else was. I wasn't
ready for the First Step. I couldn't admit my powerlessness over alcohol
or the unmanageability in my life.
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AA Grapevine, April 1994
from an article title "Time for Transition" by Annemarie M., Raynham, Mass.
I'm in an entirely new professional setting now. It has not been dull. I
don't drink and I go to AA meetings. I'm even more aware of just how
powerless I am over other people, places, and things. Change has
challenged me to turn more than ever to my home group, my sponsor, my
service work in AA, my sponsees, the Steps, Traditions, and Concepts. To
the God of my understanding, asking only for knowledge of his will for
me . . . and the power to carry that out.
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AA Grapevine, December 1995
from an article titled "Singleness of Purpose" by Lynn J., Saint John, N.B.
When I first came into the program, I didn't understand anything about
the disease of alcoholism and how it had made my life unmanageable. I
thought that people, places, and things were the real problems. It took
AA members with good long-term sobriety to help me get the focus back on
me. When newcomers come in talking about outside issues, it's my
responsibility to keep things on track in the same loving and careful
way that others used to walk me through my early sobriety.
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Grapevine, January 1997
from an article titled "A Powerful Assignment" by Ben N., White Plains,
New York
Nervous? Yes, I was. As the phone was ringing, I rehearsed what I was
going to say. But I was already quite proud of what I knew that I knew
about the First Step. Then Vince answered. Everything got jumbled up but
he put me at ease and I began to explain the First Step to him. I told
him about the unmanageability — that my life had become very small;
everything reduced to shoebox size. There wasn't very much in my life
and no room for people. Then I launched into a dissertation on
powerlessness. I really couldn't wait to get to this. I mentioned how we
were powerless over people, places, and things. On and on I went, giving
various examples — this was a full-blown, definitely AA-grounded,
exposition. I waited for Vince to tell me how wonderfully I'd mastered
the Step. I was ready to swell with pride. Then, in a soft voice he
said: "It says 'powerless over alcohol.' "
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AA Grapevine, April 1997
from an article titled "From Two-Stepping to Twelve-Stepping" by John
M., Santa Barbara, California
I learned from Al-Anon and private therapy that I'm powerless not only
over alcohol, but also people, places, and things.
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Grapevine, July 1997
from an article titled "EVERYTHING TO GAIN AND NOTHING TO LOSE" by
Niurka R., Houston, Texas
I've been in and out of several juvenile and adult penal institutions. I
always made resolutions to change and never return. At the age of
eighteen attempted to attend AA meetings in prison to change my life
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